I remember so vividly the many times my brother and I have shared a laugh. Despite being almost 5 years apart and spending what seems like years apart throughout our lives, I can honestly say he is one of the most important people in my life. A sweet guy, so stinking hilarious, yet stoic and patient at the same time. He was at the birth of my first son, when I was 16 years old and he was just 12. My sweet brother, who couldn’t possibly understand the gravity of the situation, who had no judgement toward his sister being a pregnant teenager, stood by patiently and took in the experience and when it was time, my brother cut his first nephews cord…that was 15 years ago..
I should have known he would end up with Katy. Friends through high school, these two found each other in the most perfect of timing and have been inseparable for years. Katy is soft spoken and reserved. A woman of many thoughts and driven to succeed and be the best she can at everything she does without being aggressive. A graceful beauty and the first born in her home, Katy learned early on what family meant. A connection, a sacrifice, a deep love words can’t explain.
I remember when they told me they were going to have a baby. An overwhelming swell of emotion came into my heart, and I saw them differently. I couldn’t help but imagine all of the ways their life was going to change, and how they were now experiencing what I consider my calling, growing and giving birth to a new family under the care of loving midwives. I found out last year that I would get to be home on the Island for my clinical placement just in time to be a part of their experience. I wanted them to ask, but wouldn’t expect it – I wanted them to decide what/who they needed to surround them during this time of great transition. When they asked me, I literally exploded – trying to stay cool as I accepted the offer..there really is no greater gift. The opportunity to support and love my sister in law and brother through labour and watch my first niece or nephew come into the world will be a gift I will cherish forever.
Growing a life is challenging. Pregnancy can be less than glamorous and at times downright hard. There are so many thoughts to consider and plans to be made. The pressure of the outside world (from what car seat to buy to where to give birth) is subject to criticism and judgement at every turn. My promise to you is that I will always be in your corner, I will always listen and I will always know that whatever choices come to pass in your journey through parenthood, you have my support. I will be here to bounce ideas off of, give suggestions or to simply just listen. I remember this time.. the sweet space when meeting your baby could be any week, day, any hour……enjoy that unknown and love each other up with the gentlest of sweetness you have ever given. Go into labour brave and strong – even if it feels so abstract to consider before the fact. Sink into your baby – just you three. Lock the outside world away for just a while and learn what your baby smells like- their warm skin on yours as you gaze upon the wonder of the miracle you have created. My sweet brother and his incredible wife, you two are a piece of what makes my heart beat. Our families integral to each other. My wish for you is that you continue to be the unique, thoughtful people you already and that you always remember you are supported and loved by many many friends and family. I am here for you. I will hold the sacred space so you can fall into the deepest love you will ever know. I will witness. I will guard. From the bottom of my heart, with every cell in my body, I love you three and could not be more proud.
** this session was done over two days in 4 location in very opposing weather **
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